Abandonment & Grief

#MyThoughtsToday Abandonment & Grief
2020 has been an interesting year for us all. When I say that 2019 was worse – you all might have a different thought on that. But for me, 2020 has been a year of healing. Healing a broken heart, learning how to manage/change a lifetime of goals, changing those thought patterns, and learning who I am now.
There are a lot of stages of grief and not all are obvious. Quite frankly its a lot of work. Grief doesn’t just move on as life does. There are days that go missing, sometimes it’s just an hour or two that just feels like a punch in the gut. It takes a lot of reflection and emotional work.
I’ve been trucking along pretty good. I feel a lot of Peace on most days. Summer is good for me and I felt like I was making a lot of progress. But then some of the “have-to’s” of life happened. Filing an estate tax return for your loved ones’ estate = putting a number ($$) to all you did together. It hit me hard. The number doesn’t matter in all reality but the finality of it does. This sums up his life and our life together. Going forward it’s just me. I know I am not alone. I have family & friends that will be with me throughout this journey of life but it’s not the same and never will be.
I thought I had dealt with this feeling of abandonment but it turns out there are many versions of these pesky stages of emotions. It comes and goes and isn’t near as tough as it was 12 months ago. I am very blessed with the family & friends that I have and the new friends I continue to make. They listen and support. It’s really all we can do for each other but it’s the best thing we can do for each other.
Love one another with no judgment and be kind. My journey will not be the same as yours but that doesn’t mean either journey is on the wrong path. ❤️


Its been a while since I have posted. I like to take time and think about what it is I want to say and these last few months have been a trial. Personally & publically.

First – I am fine. I am finding a new happy, a new normal. I have learned so much about myself these past 14 months. But this is for another day.

Second – My heart hurts. Not for myself but for our Human Race. We have lost touch with Respect and Reality.

I learned in a Home Ec class a great lesson in Respect – Hear me out – This direction of thought can be applied in so many ways.

“It is Rude to add Salt, Pepper, ask for Ketchup or Mustard, etc, before you have even tried the meal that is set before you” “Someone went to a lot of trouble to prepare that meal and by adding condiments without tasting the meal truly insults that cook. You are saying you know better than they do.”

Really think about this. You have made the decision to go out to eat, select a restaurant, pay for a meal, and before you taste the meal that you very carefully selected from a menu prepared by the Chef & team, you salt & pepper that meal before tasting it. Why didn’t you stay home and cook a meal that serves your liking better? Why did you automatically assume that the meal needed more salt or pepper? Did you consider the Chef’s perspective?

Have you considered the other person’s perspective?

We all are unique. We all see and feel differently. We need to respect each other’s uniqueness. When we offer Respect to others we are in turn Respected. Respect is earned. When you Give you Receive. Respect is also taught. (Thank You Mrs. Towne)

I have not been disrespected because of my color. But I do know the feeling of being disrespected on other topics: Body Shaming, Fitness Level, Religion, Finances, Politics, etc. I was definitely not the cool kid on the block! I try to use those feelings to try and understand the difference of others. Walk a Mile in someone else’s shoes.

In this social media world, it is so easy to be a keyboard warrior and put into words what most likely wouldn’t be said face to face. It is quite similar to talking behind someone’s back. Text does not convey the same message as verbally spoken words and behaviors. It’s ok to disagree but it’s not ok to be rude or call names or act superior.

Next- I’d like you to consider where you are getting your information. What sources create your opinions & beliefs?

Social media, text, photos are all easily manipulated in today’s world. Make sure your sources are trustworthy and sound. Better yet – get out from behind the screen and meet people. Explore your differences. Remember there are always 2 sides to a story – Perspective.

We as a human race will be stronger when we all remember to show respect for each other. My challenge to you is to learn about the other’s perspective before we spout our thoughts to be superior. Remember – once it’s posted online — it’s there forever! Spoken or typed it’s still there, posted and deleted – it’s still there. An apology is only a band-aid after that.

Much love to all! ❤️


You Asked … Here it is … Welcome to my Blog

During this time of Social Distancing, I have taken some time away from my usual posts on social media to really think about the Why, the What and the Where of my story.  After some soul searching, some time to my self and with others via Zoom, FB Messenger, and what other ways of connecting we could find — Here we are.  My first official blog.  Stay tuned as I update with blog posts from social media and bring this full circle. The next blog is one close to my heart — it will tell you my story from the beginning.  It’s been rolling around in my head for a few weeks as I pondered How I wanted to tell my story.  Stay Tuned…  Stay Safe…  Love Fully… ❤️  Live Happily 🧡


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